In The New York Times interview, Hamermesh found that for beautiful people in general, "Most of us, regardless of our professed attitudes, prefer as customers to buy from better-looking salespeople, as jurors to listen to better-looking attorneys, as voters to be led by better-looking politicians, as students to learn from better-looking professors." Beautiful women have it even better and get away with things ordinary people can't.Try talking an officer out of a ticket, or walking in without a reservation and getting a table at that hot new restaurant or talking that male co-worker into helping you move some furniture. Beautiful women get more smiles, more handsome lovers and better treatment, and perhaps they expect it.
Being outstandingly good-looking, they are at the same time very modest and tender.
They try to surround their husband with warmth and care, make him feel like a knight who protects his girl from all possible problems and challenges in life. Are those all the advantages that Russian brides have?
Sometimes the beautiful woman has a bigger-than-life persona; higher than normal self esteem coupled with the feeling that she is special and deserves the best can become a self fulfilling prophecy. The beautiful woman, constantly fawned upon, catered to, approached and presented with numerous options starts to see this as the norm. How some beautiful women view themselves can border on obsessive.
This sets up a powerful self image and expectations for the best. They cherish their looks and play them to the hilt, but if they find a blemish, a wrinkle or a flaw, it can throw them into a panic.
I had to stretch myself to sympathize and empathize with her, understanding the cultural differences and nuances that could allow her to say "I hate being so dark" to me, despite the fact that she is five shades lighter than I am.
Despite the fact that with her loose curls and much lighter skin, hers is a beauty that's far more palatable than mine.
It’s true that to make a wish come true one has to dream about it and believe this is going to happen.
To find love, a man has to keep an image of an ideal woman in his head, and one day he will certainly meet her.
Whenever I’m standing on a subway platform, I play this game: I hover near a person I think is cute and try to slowly make my way over to him so we get in the same car. Like most of the girls in my class, I wanted attention from the boys.
When we do, I look his way every so often to see if he’s staring back, to see if we’ve got what my best friend and I call “the affinity,” a mutual acknowledgement that we one another. But while they chased after blondes and brunettes, I was ignored.
It’s a pretty good way to pass the time from Brooklyn to midtown. I spent my childhood surrounded by black and brown kids, but when I got to high school, suddenly everyone around me was white.