That no doubt has an aspect of truth in it, but on a personal level, it is always my non-Mennonite friends who ask me those awkward questions. Guess I’ll settle with, “Well, if God has marriage for me, fine, and if he doesn’t, that’s fine, too.” Which will leave you looking bewildered—as though I just said God has to find me a job, or else I won’t have one—but at least it doesn’t commit me to anything.
We attend youth group, youth rallies, Bible school—nonchalantly, as though dating someone is the last thing on our mind. Turns out I don’t need to start a Mennonite dating site, though. I have heard Mennonites say that we as a denomination have exalted marriage above its Biblical importance, and that consequently singles in our churches are marginalized and overlooked. Or I could say, “Well, I would if someone would ask me,” but that would make me sound desperate and unhappy.
Enjoy a day out with friends as we carpool to Clearwater Beach on July 15. (specifically #22, per Suzy) There will be a potluck sign-up available as the date approaches.
Don’t forget your sunscreen and money for a late lunch (probably at Frenchy’s! A three month commitment to meet three times with a group of five single women, first meet: share a meal, second meet: share a recreational experience, third meet: share a ministry experience.
No matter what, in all times and places—God is the same loving, gracious, powerful, sovereign God. At my church, I also serve as an elder, adult classroom teacher, substitute youth teacher, song leader, and more.
Singleness has also offered me greater accessibility.
So, as it turns out, a man – yes, a man – wrote the “anti feminist” book with Tantaros’ name on it, telling women if they want to get a man and keep one, to ditch their independence, their agency, and behave like doormats.
(Link): Judge Will Not Allow Former Fox News Host to Conceal Identity of Her Feminism-Bashing Book’s Male Ghostwriter (Link): Author Claims Andrea Tantaros’ Book About How Feminism ‘Made Women Miserable” Was Ghostwritten by a Man Excerpts Former Fox News starlet Andrea Tantaros made a name of herself in the conservative echelons of cable news punditry by (Link): blaming feminists for everything from the decline of marriage to statutory rape.So when her book was released last year it seemed par for the course that she would dedicate hundreds of pages to how she— a capable, self-sufficient, feminine anti-feminist— was so much better off than her feminist counterparts.Many respondents applied their understanding of the Bible – which is supported by experience of dating and marriage with subsequent divorce with non-Christians – to say they would never marry a non-Christian. Marriage is really only a metaphor of Christ and his union with the church. Marriage is an idol that leads to an ineffective Christian witness. Last year, two Mennonite singles—one a man and one a woman—posted their thoughts on marriage and its relation to the church. The girl, Esther, was all like: Marriage is w-a-a-y too important in the church.I briefly considered calling this post “Mennonite and Single,” but that sounds too much like a profile I might put on a Mennonite dating site—a “here I am, come and get me” type of line. You can read her post, called “The Idol of Marriage,” here.