“We were on a break” is a phrase that persists in popular culture — despite the fact that it’s been over a decade since Ross Geller has bellowed them out in defence of his actions.Now, in a case of life imitating art, David Schwimmer and his wife have announced that they’re taking a break from their marriage to “determine the future of [their] relationship,” reports.“The essence of a break is to give time to each member of a couple to reevaluate what they want,” says Lesley Edwards, a dating expert and relationship coach in Toronto.
“You don’t want to feel overly excited or disappointed about a match, because until you meet in person, you won’t truly know how you feel about him.” So, no texting your mom screen shots of your Hinge prospect’s profile… It’s possible that you may need to take a digital dating break—but not necessarily a complete dating break—if your only way of meeting partners is online.“Dating apps can be sort of addictive, and since we always have our phones on us, getting rid of the apps is an easy first step in getting rid of the temptation to stay in the dating scene when you’re on a break,” says Gibson.And there’s a tendency to go back to that person to fill that void,” Edwards says.“You have to consciously focus on your own healing and answering your own questions.”It’s difficult to do that when the person raising those questions is still hanging around — not to mention that it defeats the point of the break altogether. Be frank about your feelings, or potential lack thereof, for the other person.“If you don’t miss them, acknowledge that, and if you don’t want to be together, say it.It’s easy to become overly dependent on digital dating, but it’s important to create opportunities for meeting people offline, too, says Davis Edwards.
“It’s equally important to be open to the possibility of meeting someone in person, and that means putting yourself in the right position to connect with new people.”Dismissing new people before you’ve really taken the time to get to know them—within reason, of course—can be a major barrier to meeting someone and a sign that you need to press pause on dating.She’ll obsess over what she might have done to push him away and will try to devise some plan to get him back. In my opinion, breaks are usually a big sign of trouble.However, it is possible for things to go back to normal as long as both people use the break time properly.The latest woman to get in on the 'we're on a break' act? Gaga posted an Instagram of the pair recently, with a caption that read: 'Taylor and I have always believed we are soulmates.Just like all couples we have ups and downs, and we have been taking a break.“Before deciding on taking a break, however, you need to set boundaries and discuss how it will play out.”You shouldn’t request a break in a moment of anger, sit down with your partner and have a frank discussion about why it’s necessary.“Determine what the break will mean to you and what it will mean to your partner,” Bilotta says. This is also the time to discuss logistics like how long the break should last and whether you should remain in contact.