Stop hanging out and start dating

This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?

Or when we finally do hang out, it’s usually just for you-know-what and not much else.

The problem with the dramatic exit is that it lets the other person get away with saying, “She was a psycho! Depending on the situation, I do take a stand and speak up for myself at the risk of the other person telling others that I was crazy.

What I’ve learned is that ignoring the obvious signs can lead to unnecessary heartache.

What I hate most is when the disappointment is so big that it just messes up several days in a row that would have been better spent on happiness. How do you “break up” with someone you’re barely even dating?

It makes me angry, but I can’t control their ignorance, and if they ARE calling me crazy, then it’s a damned good thing I won’t be rewarding them with my company anymore.

I’ll suffer for a while because it’s sad to let go of someone you care about, but eventually common sense takes over and it’s a relief to get that person out of the way and make room for someone more deserving of my time and affection.I don’t have first-hand knowledge, but thanks to reality TV, I believe it appears to involve asking the woman’s dad if she is available to date, and possibly not kissing until the actual wedding.Outside the Duggar-verse, there is the less overt but just as prevalent “ideal spouse” dating. Did she want my sweatshirt because she was cold, or because she likes me?Three very, very different things that are handled three very, very different ways, but at least you know! He's not going to take you to some crappy hellhole you hate on your first date.If you're more of a "cute sushi place with twinkle lights in the windows" gal, he totally knows that and you will not end up at "dark sports bar with lots of screaming." Bless his heart.11.We all know the guys who meet you and become friends with you but are really only doing that because they hope one day you'll bone and then if you ever get a boyfriend, they hate you. With him, you've always known he would be your friend either way because he genuinely likes you no matter what, which is the best foundation ever for a kickass relationship. You know how to make each other laugh, so telling him a joke isn't like throwing piles of dust into the wind. You know the basics about his childhood and any possible weirdness there.