Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.
After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.
” You search your brain for some reason as to why this fool isn’t falling over himself for your incredible friend and come up with only one plausible answer. I see my intimidating friends as strong, assertive women.
These are things that I admire and wish I saw in myself. But sometimes I wonder if my quippy response is correct; is it really intimidation that keeps the men from my fabulous friends?
I can say no easily."Jennie: "My friends think I am intimidating because I work in a corporate business environment which would at times be associated with rigor/aggressive natured people.
It’s an environment that breeds people to become coarse or cold emotionally in order to get to the next level.
One of the most powerful means of communicating with others nonverbally is by calling up your most piercing, incisive eye contact.
I sometimes also call this the “death stare” or the “predatory look.” It’s the ability to stare into someone else and make her feel as though you’re staring directly into her soul... preparing to DO something to her, though she can only guess at WHAT.
at least for me personally, it’s something I’ve always had (from the day I was born, according to the stories).
However, in the interest of giving it a good crack – because it’s an awesome power if you can attain it – I’d like to try.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
Have you ever been faced with that impossible question from a friend?