If you’re a women using online dating after 40, and you’re having that fear of “rejection by photo,” OR if this is something that is keeping you from going online, this article should assuage your photo fear.
After four exchanges, I realize that the guy is clearly unable to write, spell, punctuate, etc.His messages to me are so bad that they’re beyond illiterate — it’s almost as if this whole thing is some sort of joke. I don’t expect perfect grammar, but I do expect communication that doesn’t need to be deciphered before I can respond to it.Short but nicely written and says the kinds of things I want to read.So I strike up a conversation with him in the site’s messaging system.Now, you’re always told to look happy and make eye contact in social situations, but at least for your online dating photo, that’s just not optimal advice.
For women, a smile isn’t strictly better: she actually gets the most messages by flirting directly into the camera, like the center and right-hand subjects above.
(I met my husband online, so have the vast majority of the women I coach.) Your pictures give a sense of whether you would be someone they might like to meet.
And there are all kinds of men who are attracted to all kinds of women. Here’s another thing: Both women and men post photos that are outdated, have them hiding behind sunglasses or are too dark to really see.
"Dating is dating whether it happens online or offline." But in terms of the details on these profile pics, Yagan and his team bust four myths: Not if you're a guy.
Photos in which men were looking away from the camera and not smiling had the most success in getting messages from possible dates.
The more of these I see on a profile, the less likely I’ll be to either initiate or even respond to communications with an offender. Also, group photos where it isn’t clear which member of the group you are. Cropped couple photos I can’t believe I even need to list this, but I do. I’ve seen more than a few photos of a man who clearly has his arm around a woman who has been cropped out of the photo.