“I don't leave a lot of things open-ended theologically. “Any religious person who says he does not really need human friends because God is his Friend is calling God a liar because He's the One Who says we also need human friends.” (Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship & Life Together) 2.
“Performance is done for the sight and approval of others.
Mark Driscoll on Single Christian Women Who Desire Marriage – the positives and negatives of his piece Driscoll is typically quite sexist.
Following the controversy, Driscoll announced he would take a sabbatical, as an investigation into his conduct is ongoing. The investigation is due, among the other things, to examine several of Driscoll's public statements which caused the outrage of hundreds. Service allows us to do our best, knowing that God’s appreciation of us is secure regardless of our performance.Performance causes us to focus on the “big” things and only do what is highly visible or significant.As I have blogged about numerous times, conservative Christians present a false picture to singles: Christians first hold marriage and having children up as the norm, and if you do not marry, you are regarded as a freak and a loser by churches, or else, in some churches, the never married and childless are simply ignored; their needs are never addressed.
To obtain marriage, most conservative Christians offer up advice that does not work.
It's impossible to be satisfied in your marriage if you don't have a standard that is biblical; that standard is always your spouse.” ― Mark Driscoll “Are you letting culture, not scripture, determine your sexuality, how you date, how you present yourself, how you engage in certain relationships with members of the opposite sex?
This is one of the great devastating effects of pornography: you lust after people and compare your spouse to them.
Service frees us to do what God wants, thereby saying no as needed.
Performance presses us toward perfectionism, where we seek to do everything just right so others will praise us.
Service is done knowing that God is watching and approving whether or not anyone else is.