Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
I just believe based on my own experience they can be improved upon because sometimes we make our first emails out to be more than they should be.
Also, I’ll be showing examples similar to the emails he sent.
like randomly approaching strangers and demanding that they get coffee with you.
But now that you’ve had some time to try things out…
It can be fantastically fun, interesting, rewarding, and exciting, but it can also be discouraging, time-consuming, frustrating, emotionally challenging, and, every now and then, a little ridiculous. What you need to remember is that this is a process. Though you are result oriented (you want to meet someone wonderful) you can’t be invested in outcomes.
There are so many people out there who are single and searching, just like you.
There are some things to remember as you get started.• Clarify your goals and then look for sites that help you connect with people who have the same relationship goals that you do. The odds are against the first person you meet online being the one you end up with. You will find that you like some and don’t click with others.
For example, do you want to be online pen pals only or meet in person? (As previously mentioned, don’t be too invested in outcomes when you meet each person for the first time. Try one for a month or so—you can always shut down that profile and try another site.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
Even if they are not people you want to see a second time, you had a nice hour at a coffee shop making a connection. If you are over an hour from a city, consider the bigger sites.• Check out how a site operates.