Knowing someone on a deeper, inner level can make that person even more attractive to you.
In some cases, a date you may have overlooked to begin with, when given a chance, can be pleasantly surprising.
But if responses to a recent survey are to be believed, conventional wisdom is about to be turned upside down.
Gary Lewandowski Jr., Chair of the Department of Psychology at Monmouth University, said only 1 in 10 Americans ranking appearance first is surprising and suggests people are uneasy when answering survey questions about dating, sex and relationships."What people say they'll do is often different from what they actually do," he said. Lewandowski, who spends his days researching this type of phenomenon, said our findings are supported by his own research, which shows how a good personality affects a person's attractiveness."There is research that shows for picking partners, people often say things other than attractiveness matter, but when researchers tracked who people selected to date, it was largely based on attractiveness."What's ironic, according to Lewandowski, is that those other traits are far more important to long-term compatatabiliy. He refers to this as "the malleability of opposite-sex physical attractiveness" and said it is an integral part of how our brain interprets attractiveness.Looks and attraction is all relative to the person.On the other side, you may be surprised just how attractive someone can be once you get to know them.I'm may sound really shallow, but I don't think I can date someone who I don't find physically attractive.
I wish I could deny my instincts, but my instincts tell me that I won't be happy unless someone is smart, fun, sweet AND good-looking. They will gravitate and hit on the girls they find physically attractive when they are out.But I hope that most guys are not judging books by the cover.In other words, I hope what most guys are looking for is a book with a pretty cover and a great story inside. So, is it less shallow to say that guys are attracted to a girl at FIRST by how she looks, but then there must be more to formulate a deeper relationship?But she was quick to point out that I won't approach a girl who is not petite and is not shorter than me.I'm average height and my first few girlfriends I ever had were all petite.Looks matter, and sex is an important part of a healthy relationship.