And yet the truth is that the majority of new infections occur within “primary relationships,” such as a lover or boyfriend, and usually because one partner did not know he was infected and then transmitted HIV to his partner.
When Donald Sterling dissed Magic Johnson for being promiscuous and unworthy, it was nothing new for people living with HIV. A lot of those misconceptions persist today, even (or maybe especially) among gay men.
Our attitudes can be hurtful, stigmatizing, and even contradictory.
Finding out that you have HIV may affect your current and future relationships, but it doesn’t have to mean an end to relationships with HIV negative partners.
Relationships where one person is HIV positive and the other is HIV negative are sometimes called ‘serodiscordant’.
He will be happy that you feel comfortable talking about it with him and, more than likely, will be able to allay any worry you may have. Don’t assume that you are the only one who is afraid.
What will hurt his feelings is if you make assumptions and don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. Just because he was upfront and honest with you about his status, doesn’t mean he is a pro at dating while HIV-positive.After our make-out session, I was relieved to find out HIV can only be spread through certain bodily fluids — blood, semen, rectal and vaginal fluid and breast milk. I hadn't spoken to my date since he told me, aside from a quick apology for reacting so harshly. And we both hoped our talk would open up a conversation about those living with HIV and how they continue to make the most of their lives, despite the stigma that comes with being infected.But had he already suffered through worse reactions? So it's time you all listen up: Sean Abrams: So, when did you find out you had HIV?You may find it difficult to tell a partner that you have HIV, but not telling a partner may lead to problems later.This used to be more of an issue when we understood less about the link between viral load and infectiousness.We now know that if you’re taking HIV medication and have an undetectable viral load, you cannot pass on HIV.