Dating violence seems to decrease once young adults move beyond being a teenager.
Dating or domestic violence, also known as intimate partner violence, is a pattern of ongoing power and control by one dating partner over another.
Examples of dating or domestic violence include threatening a partner or their family, coercing them into doing something they don’t want to do, constantly belittling them, controlling what they can and cannot do, deciding who they can go out with and when, isolating them from friends and family, controlling their finances and access to resources, or physically hitting, kicking, punching, slapping, or scratching.
In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other partner through abuse.
Dating violence is not about getting angry or having a disagreement. Many people in abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing their own abilities or gifts.
It occurs in both heterosexual and LGBTQ relationships. If you have been the victim of dating or domestic violence, you are not alone. Please see the links to the right for resources and for more information about dating and domestic violence The behaviors associated with relationship abuse all stem from one person's use of power and control over another.
While it is important to remember that we all have different cultural practices, beliefs, and experiences that shape our view of what intimate relationships look like, everyone deserves to feel safe and respected. The Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, Minn., developed a tool called the the power and control wheel [PDF] that illustrates these relationships.
In teenage dating relationships, the abuse is often public with peers witnessing the abuse; however, the abuse can also occur in private. REACH Hotline (800) 899-4000 (Office (781) 891-0724) Kol Isha Teen Safe Program (781) 647-5327 and ask for Kol Isha National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline (866) 331-9474 (866)331-8453 (TTY) Fund (781) 438-5604 Jeanne Geiger Crisis Center (978) 465-0999 X19 Mentors In Violence Prevention (617) 373-4025 - The Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) Program is a gender violence prevention and education program based at Northeastern University's Center for the Study of Sport in Society.
Remember that you have the right to a healthy relationship. You have done nothing wrong, and the abuse is not your fault. Talk to your parents, another family member, a friend, your physician, a counselor, a clergy person, or someone else you trust. You may need it as evidence if you have to take legal action. Do not let the abuser in your home or car when you are alone. The multi-racial, mixed gender MVP team is the first large-scale attempt to enlist high school, collegiate and professional athletes in the effort to prevent all forms of men's violence against women.
On this page, find estimates on prevalence from: Youth Risk Behavior Survey, a nationally representative annual survey of youth in grades 9 to 12, found that, of those students who dated someone in the last 12 months, approximately one in 10 reported being a victim of physical violence from a romantic partner during that year.The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, analyzing a nationally representative sample of adolescents in grades 7 to 12 who were then followed over time, showed that approximately 30 percent of people ages 12 to 21 in heterosexual relationships reported experiencing psychological abuse in the past 18 months; 20 percent of youth in same-sex relationships reported experiencing the same type of abuse.About 10 percent of students in the Youth Risk Behavior Study who had dated someone in the last 12 months reported that they had been kissed, touched or physically forced to have sexual intercourse against their will by a dating partner during that year.To date, there are no nationally representative data on perpetration of dating violence.
One NIJ-funded study examined the prevalence of dating violence among 5,647 teens (51.8 percent female, 74.6 percent Caucasian) from 10 middle schools and high schools (representing grades 7-12) throughout New York, New Jersey and Pennsylvania. "Partner Violence Among Adolescents in Opposite-Sex Romantic Relationships: Findings from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health." 91 (October 2001): 1679-1685.
“Prevalence of Partner Violence in Same-Sex Romantic and Sexual Relationships in a National Sample of Adolescents.” Journal of Adolescent Health 35 (August 2004): 124-131.