In raising the issue, Cooper ignited a public conversation about a topic that is increasingly getting attention in the black community and beyond.
Oprah Winfrey, among others, recently hosted a show about single black women and relationships after a Yale University study found that 42 percent of African-American women in the United States were unmarried.
However, parental support and living in diverse areas seems to provide the best environments for multi-racial children to do well.One of the experts framed it perfectly, however, when she pointed out that we ought to ask ALL prospective parents "what about the children? As we all know, same-race parents don't necessarily insure that a child will have a happy or secure childhood.What are the strengths/weaknesses of your personality type? Personality compatibility is far more important than many think. If he doesn’t support efforts to demand more accountability for police, despite widespread images of black men, women and children being murdered where no one is held accountable — BYE! Do you have a problem with natural hair, permed hair, weaves, braids or any other black hairstyle? According to the NAACP, 1 in 6 Black men have and it is projected that if trends continue, 1 in 3 black men will likely spend time in prison during their lifetime. This does not mean that there is anything inherently wrong with ascribing to certain concepts of masculinity or femininity, but in a society that constantly strips black people from access to those “ideals”, it can become troublesome if that is all one’s sense of identity is built on. Would you have a problem running a household/taking care of kids while a woman worked?Some black men are quick to criticize women for their hairstyle choices, while simultaneously holding women to Eurocentric beauty standards. A black man can appreciate the beauty of black women’s personal presentation choices and self-expression. Depending on what kind of a record a man has, he may be barred from social services and many types of work opportunities. Many Black men have been or will be unemployed at some point in their lives. Sit around the house watching football all day, while you run about cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids and working?I’ve wanted to write this blog for a really long time.
Since I am a bookworm, the #1 way I get inspired in whatever season of life I’m in is through the written word.
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Unhappy with how her love life is going and still single at age 40, Susan decides to call God to the carpet by taking him to “couple’s therapy.” Susan’s rocky, real, raw, HONEST relationship with God was something I could relate to immediately, as one who has never tiptoed politely around God and has had more than a few wrestling matches with him myself about life and love.
Clinging to the gospel Cooper, a writer for the San Francisco Examiner, recently made claims on her blog Surviving that predominantly black protestant churches, such as African Methodists, Pentecostal, and certain denominations of Evangelical and Baptist churches are the main reason black women are single.
Cooper, who is black and says she is not strictly religious, argues that rigid beliefs constructed by the black church are blinding black women in their search for love.
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