With this in mind, what are you planning on doing differently to find love in 2016? You've been on a couple of great dates, there's chemistry, banter and regular communication.
Things are going well but then out of the blue the calls stop and texts start to tail off.
Editor’s Note: Eliza Romero is a Baltimore-based, Filipino-American fashion photographer and style blogger behind the website Aesthetic Distance, a blog critical of pop culture.
The views expressed in this piece are solely her own.
Let me elaborate with an example that a member, recently shared. They went on a couple of dates and things seem to be going swimmingly well. The thrill of getting to know someone that you find attractive ought to be an exhilarating experience, otherwise why bother?
Acutely aware of many Asian men's ageism mentality, on their third date, Nina decided to broach the subject about their age difference. Whilst we're all busy people, if not somewhat egotistical and complacent at times, this results in picking up bad dating habits.
I am a member of a lot of Asian Rights and Feminist groups on Facebook.
One of the biggest topics in these groups is the WM/AF (White Male/Asian Female) phenomenon.
I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike.
I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends. Although we grew up with some very different traditions (my Chinese/Vietnamese heritage and his Canadian/Jewish heritage), we pretty much went through the same circumstances as Canadian children.
But I would never do that to my Dad who would be very upset if I did. When I meet a man and I am without my husband, I’ll place within the first minutes of the conversation that “my husband blablabla… That usually is enough to make my state of mind really clear.
I did the same thing as a girl, talking about my boyfriend (actually existing or not) early on in the conversation. And some people are just not faithful, but contrary to popular opinion, it’s not worse in France than anywhere else (and several studies demonstrate it). It’s in our genes and it’s socially accepted in France.
As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males.