I’m black or brown, depending on who you ask, and I mainly date white guys.I have no idea why and it’s definitely not a conscious choice.
I grew up in a small town in the 90's, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat.There was no racial tension, but then again, no sense of black community. All the boys I crushed on were white; my first “boyfriend” (aged 10) was white and my first boyfriend (aged 14) was white."I've come across a lot of men who tell me I should be ashamed and say things like, "It's not too late to come home" or "He won't know what to do with all of that." I've heard it all. But the negative comments can be more distressing when they come from family or close friends.Asia Diggs Meador, 33, had never considered marrying outside her race.The point is that many barriers to long term relationship status exist that could easily become deal breakers.
The book isn't bad but the author is naive if she thinks that she has the 411 locked down.
The bigger issue is that like many members of minority groups, many Blacks feel confident to speak in generalities or promote stereotypes which when echoed back by unsuspecting White dates trying hard to learn and exude tolerance suddenly sounds prejudicial or insulting creating unnecessary friction.
The author is strangely silent about this so it comes as no surprise that she can date or hookup with Whites but never gets a marriage proposal and restricts her buy-my-book compliments to White boys that majored in Sociology so they "understand" the struggle.
This is particularly true when political gains are sought by skillful manipulation of the rare Black White conflict that makes the news like the Zimmerman vs Martin case.
Normally intelligent, educated, kind, goal-oriented Blacks that radiate middleclass values suddenly claim to see imaginary lynch mobs on every corner which seriously distracts from dates let alone marriage proposals.
We’ve all had our fair share of foot in mouth situations with guys when they hit on us, whether it’s in person or online.